Scripture: Ephesians 6:4 – Fathers do not exasperate your children; instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Observation: (This is from my study bible) – “The purpose of parental discipline is to help children grow, not to exasperate and provoke them to anger or discouragement”
Application: I have been watching from a distance a set of parents that think their grown child should do everything they say and do not learn to let go of control. They try to guilt the child with the bible and stir that poor thing to anger. This child wants to do what is right and is doing what is right, but she can never measure up to her parents.
My study bible also says" Parenting is not easy – it takes a lot of patience to raise a child in a loving Christ honoring manner. But frustration and anger should not be the cause for discipline Instead parents should act in love, treating their children as Jesus treats people he loves."
If we preach what Jesus is like and how he loves, we should then in turn live it. Don’t make unattainable goals for your children, Make goals that are attainable and goals that create positive growth. We as parents are not always going to get it right, but with Christ as our example, we at least have a shot at getting some of it right.
And lastly forgive your children, they will lash out at you in frustrations, but they will ask for forgiveness. Unconditional love not exasperation is the key to any healthy relationship.
Prayer: Lord God, help me to love as Christ loves me, help me to forgive as Christ forgives me. Help me to show my children the meaning of forgiveness when they need it and please help me not to exasperate them as sometimes I’m sure I will. Help me to show unconditional love even when I don’t agree with them. Thank you Lord, I love you!!